Family Therapy

As you work through the challenges in your own family, you may find yourself thriving in ways you never expected.

Families are wonderful, messy things, aren’t they? We are inextricably linked with our family members. And yet, we are also individuals. This leads to some pretty fascinating dynamics that can also cause a lot of conflict and confusion. Family therapy can help you work through the challenges in your own family. As you do, you’ll begin to grow as individuals and also as a family unit. Your family can thrive in ways that you might never even expect.

What Is Family Therapy?

Family therapy means that you and one or more family members come to sessions together to speak with a therapist. While you may address some individual issues, you’re generally there to work through relationship challenges in the family.

That said, you certainly don’t have to be in the midst of family crisis to benefit from family therapy. Families are complicated even in the best of times. There are misunderstandings, problems with communication, and various stressors that place strain on your relationships. Family therapy helps you whether the problems feel big or small.

Do We Need Family Therapy?

Any family can benefit from therapy. After all, you have to communicate with each other. Most humans struggle with good communication, particularly during times of stress. We can often be worst at it with our family members because we are locked into old patterns of relating. So, even if things are mostly okay, your family might thrive better through therapy.

That said, families do often come to therapy during times of crisis or transition. You might want to seek family therapy if you are dealing with:

  • Relationship status changes such as marriage, separation, divorce, birth, adoption
  • Household changes such as a child moving out or an elderly parent moving in
  • Challenging events such as illness, unemployment, or financial stressors
  • Death in the family, including the death of a pet
  • Substance abuse issues, domestic violence, and other family trauma
  • Parenting challenges including behavioral issues, problems at school, or a child’s mental or physical health issues
  • Mental health issues among any of the family members including depression and anxiety
  • Ongoing conflict between two or more family members

But We Don’t Really Fight

Families deal with their problems in a variety of different ways. Some families are very verbally expressive. They argue, they fight, perhaps they even throw things. It’s obvious when there is a conflict. Therefore, it might seem obvious that those families could benefit from therapy.

But what about if you don’t really fight? What if your arguments are more likely to look like ignoring each other, acting overly polite, or co-existing while saying as little as necessary? What if you’re mostly doing “okay” and yet you feel unhappy and you know that your family dynamic is part of that? Family therapy can help you, too.

Here’s the question: Is your family situation exactly what you would dream for it to be?

If the answer is no (and for almost all of us, the answer is no) then you might be able to benefit from family therapy. Family therapy opens up communication. That can mean changing patterns of outright conflict but it can also mean starting to talk in new ways even when there isn’t obvious fighting that occurs.

Get To Know and Respect Each Other In New Ways

You love each other. After all, you are family. But do you really know each other? Do you respect one another? Are you able to authentically share all of your own truths with each member of your family and listen non-judgmentally as they do the same? Imagine the power of your family if you could. Family therapy can help you get there. It takes some work and some skill, and therapy provides a safe space to learn those skills and do that work.

“A happy family is but an earlier heaven.”
– George Bernard Shaw

Who Goes To Family Therapy?

There are as many different types of families today as there are different types of people. Perhaps you have a spouse and children and all of you will attend family therapy together. But if that’s not what your family photograph looks like, that’s okay. Therapy helps all different types of families. Groups that might come to family therapy include:

  • Single parents and their children
  • Adults and their own parents
  • Sibling groups of any age
  • Adults who are separated but co-parenting, which might include stepparents
  • Multi-generational groups including children, parents, and grandparents

Some people even get help from a couples therapist or family therapist to work through challenges in their business partnerships, roommate dynamics, etc. Family therapy teaches you how to work through challenges in your relationships.

If you aren’t sure whether or not family therapy is right for you, call today with your questions to find out if it’s a good fit.