The Benefits of Second Marriages
All of the stressors can make it feel like second marriages “aren’t worth it” but that’s not the case at all. Your first marriage, as well as all of the years you’ve spent in and out of relationships, also mean that you bring a lot of strengths to this new relationship.
Each of you has figured out at least some of what you don’t want, because it didn’t work before. Therefore, you have a better sense of what you do want. The more that you know yourself, your desires, and your expectations for marriage, the more likely it is that you’ll be able to make marriage work.
You have also likely built up a lifetime of your own support system. These are people that you can trust, turn to, and get advice from. If they support your second marriage, then they are in your corner through the good and bad times to come. That kind of support can really help a marriage, even though those family dynamics might be complicated.
And although there are often financial concerns in second marriages, some of the money stuff isn’t always bad. After all, you’re both older and likely further along in your careers. Maybe you have some savings. You’ve probably figured out how to talk about money better than you knew how to do when you were in your twenties. All of these things can be helpful in second marriages.