Therapy Helps You Set Goals for the Future
Therapy isn’t only about dredging up the past. As you learn to communicate anew, you may also find that you want to think about the future. For so long you’ve probably just been existing together. The “future” had to do with what would happen with the kids, where you would move for a job, what the holidays would look like each year. But what about the future of the two of you and your marriage? It’s a wonderful time to start thinking about that again.
In therapy, you can start to identify what your new hopes and dreams are. The past has formed a foundation under your feet, but you can still sprout new leaves and grow together. If everything were ideal, what would you want to happen in your marriage in the years to come? Therapy can help you uncover those dreams, figure out how to make your dreams match your partners, and set plans for the future.
In a TEDTalk, Esther Perel said, “Most of us are going to have two or three relationships or marriages, and some of us are going to do it with the same person.” You have changed. Your relationship has changed. But that might be a wonderful thing. You might be able to start a brand new exciting relationship with the person you already have a long term marriage with.